August 27th, 2010
I have spoken with many people who are frustrated with their money situation right now. They know they have blocks, but they don’t know what they are or, if they do know what some of them are, they don’t know how to release them.
So, I decided to create 3 audios to help you gain more clarity on what some of your blocks about money are and how to release them. These audios are pure content. There is no selling – just great information to help you get unstuck and moving forward. These are my gift to you.
You can listen to the first audio by clicking this link. It is only about 4 minutes long.
Please listen, do the exercise and then post your findings and Ah-Ha’s below.
Have a great weekend!
Melanie
I can see my father sitting at the table, rolling his eyes. My mother would be silent, but she’d be thinking “yeah, right”. I think my sister would be supportive, but reserved. However, my partner would believe in me, and so would one of my friends.
I need to stop procrastinating, and believe in myself, and get my business started!
Melanie,
Thank you for sharing this exercise with all of us. I am currently cleaning out all of the lies that I have believed about the ability to make money so this was exactly what I needed to kick it up a notch.
I realized that I would not want any of my family of origin in that room (parents and siblings) as they would not be excited for me and would have a million reasons why I shouldn’t have a million dollars (interesting parallel).
I am surrounding myself with friends who believe in my ability to share what I have learned to help others. They always encourage, challenge and celebrate me. Those are the people with whom I will continue to surround myself with.
Thanks again for challenging all of us to get out of our heads and into the people God designed us to be.
When I did the exercise, I could see my mom smiling and trying to keep her face as neutral as possible, while worrying that I was setting myself up for a big disappointment. I could see my sisters looking at each other as if to say, “Oh, boy, she’s lost it!” My husband is shaking his head. He would be the one I wish not to be there because he would be very negative about my making a statement about becoming rich. Since I have failed at several other entrepreneurial efforts, he would naturally think that I would have the same results again. I would have to toughen up my thin skin and get over my insecurities about my abilities in order to change my mindset. And I would have to be more focused and say “no” to many other things to have that kind of success.
Hello! Firstly, I want to say making the announcement allowed me to feel a sense of pleasant freedom and energy flow at my sides, right at the level of the second chakra (which is usually where I had carried all the energy “baggage” for others). I wasn’t surprised to discover I did not even want to look at my mom after I had made the announcement. I was VERY pleasantly suprised to know that I was excited to announce this to my boyfriend/partner of 13 years!
Thank you Melanie for this exercise which brings me another big step closer to freedom!
Sounds like a great expereince for you. Very validating. Congratulations!
Hello Melanie,
, Joseann
your exercise has given me a lot of good information about where to continue my “research”, thank you again for putting it out here! I feel it basically burns down to answering the following questions: Is it ethical to earn a lot of money or better how could I earn the amount of money I would feel comfortable with in an ethical way? Do I need special skills and talents for earning more money and what are they? Can I acquire them? And what if not? How big an endeavor is it to make a “million” dollars? And is it reasonable to depend in my happiness on being a millionaire? Wouldn’t it be better to be happy first?
Intersting stuff. Have a nice day
HI Joseann, Thanks for sharing the issues the exercise brought up for you. Several people have mentioned the struggle with “will that much money make me happy?” It’s interesting to me since the exercise makes no assertion or connection about the million making you happy. Lots of shared stories that are limiting our belief in our right to have money and be happy. In answer to your question “should I be happy now?” I say a resounding YES!!! Be happy and have fun NOW. That is the energy that money is attracted to.
Doing this exercise I noticed my heart was pounding and my cheeks flushed. I can relate with Mary about first seeking the approval from her mother. I did the same. Also I pictured my father telling me that money shouldn’t be my main focus.The one thing I know to change is understanding the need to surround myself with supportive people. The only challenge is finding people I can trust who won’t become negative or envious of my successes.
Hi RJ, It sounds like you could really benefit from a mastermind group to support you. When upleveling your mindset, it is important to have people who will not only support you, they will go out of their way to help you and cheer madly for you during each step. Money is just a tool to change your life and the lives of others. You deserve to have the life you want.
Hello Melanie,
thank you very much for sharing this exercise, what an interesting setting to imagine! I felt shame, not so much about announcing it, but about wanting it in the first place. And I kind of prepared for the attack through “ducking away with my right arm raises as a protection, like one does to protect against a stroke. The main criticism in the room was that it is “ethically not ok to want so much money”. But also that “I do not really have any qualities/skills/talents that would enable me to make so much money”, in a sense that “being rich is only for people with special skills and talents and I am not one of those people”. And a third one was that this wouldn’t make me any happier and why on Earth I would want to take on such a crazy endeavour to make a million dollar. Problem is, I am not definite about them being wrong. Thank you again.
Best regards
Joseann
Hi Joseann, it sounds like you have taken what I call “the healers unconscious vow of poverty”. I love this exercise because it doesn’t really matter what the number is – I picked 1 million because it would inflame discomfort for most people. The point is really to see where you are holding yourself back from having the freedom to stand in your value, make as much money as you want to make and create the life you want to live without worrying what others will say. It sounds like you received quite a bit of good information, yes?
Okay, before you even asked I had already eliminated most of my family:). I felt that I had several “famous” people there, people who have been and are my coaches and mentors.
Not sure that I need to shift that as much as just share that with many more people.
Hi Marian – yeah for you! Start talking about your goals and vision for your business with like minded people who will support you to be as successful as you want to be.
Melanie, Thank you for this powerful message. Believing that we can accomplish an important goal, monetary or otherwise, is a necessary first step toward reaching the goal. Uncovering contrary beliefs and eliminating them are powerful next steps. Thank you for pointing this out so vividly.
Hi Ann, You are most welcome. Thank you for listening and posting your comments and your appreciation. I trust you received some clarity from it.
what an interesting exercise. there are two friends I pictured as laughing aand saying how in the world will you do that? but that reaction, once I faced it, did not bother me as much as had I thought it might. I saw them reacting to the fact that this is a big goal rather than disapproving of it, or of me. it’s in their characters to question such things, and I know that. also, I felt support and encouragement and ‘yes!’ from several of those present, which was something I had not consciously thought about.
Hi Kathleen, That’s wonderful to know that it is their stuff and not at all about you!! How very freeing. It’s also nice to recognize that there are people right there with you, saying “yes” and cheering you on.
I felt really silly making a public statement like that. I’m a (rather practical) healing musician and I thought it was a ridiculous statement to make. I did not want anyone to hear it. In a small town in rural Wyoming, this would be an impossible goal to accomplish in my lifetime. I felt I would destroy my personal credibility as a recognized professional musician with everyone in the room. People around here think all music is free and comes out of the walls. What I need to change is my perception that this goal is impossible and not worth pursuing. Obviously, I have some serious blocks to making money in a healing profession.
Hi Alice, What a great discovery about where your money thermastat is set. Once we look at where we are limited in what we think is possible, we can make decisions about what we want and set out to get comfortable standing in the truth of what we want and what we think is possible, instead of what other think and what they believe is possible. Blessings ~
Melanie
Hi Melanie and All,
I, too, am very grateful to have had the opportunity to do this exercise. So thank you for providing it!
I felt a great deal of tension and tightness in my chest and shoulders as I made my anouncement. There were many people in that room who I felt were scoffing, underestimating me and thinking my work was ridiculous and frivolous.
I had to smile a little after the exercise, and remind myself that those aren’t the people I’m serving through my work, and they don’t have to like, appreciate or aprove of my work. I *know* that I’m worthy of the greatest success, and there are an abundance of people out there (like the ideal clients I currently have), who *will* appreciate my work and soar in their lives as a result of experiencing it.
I made a firm commitment to myself to always stand in my power and remember my worthiness and my purpose. I feel sooo much better!
Love and Blessings,
Kim
Hi Kim, Thanks for sharing your experience!! How great to realize your value and stand in your truth no matter what you fear others will think! Enjoy the freedom!
First, thank you for sharing this audio exercise. I did the exercise and found that I looked to my mother for affirmation and approval. I realized that all my life I have feared her disapproval. This is a HUGE acknowledgement. My sense was that my mother just doesn’t think I can do it. My “aha moment” is: When I make her opinions so important and large, it makes me feel small. Then I lose my power.
Hi Mary, you are most welcome. I’m glad you found the exercise helpful! We do loose our power and freedom when we depend on someone else’s approval. Glad you recognize your pattern and can now make a conscious choice to change it. Thanks so much for sharing! Blessings ~ Melanie
I realized that i would not want my brother Alex present during the revelation of my money making intention. when i focused on him i felt sad, uncomfortable, unappreciated and out of control. we have a dark past together and we have not come to a resolution. i have done alot of work in my life and i am now realizing that the block is mine he has not power over me unless i let him.
it is good to know that i am worthy of the best!
Denise
Hi Denise, what a powerful recognition! You can get closure on a “dark past” without participation from the other person. You are free to move forward and create the success you deserve! Thanks for sharing your discovery!